Judging others does not define them; it defines us. Remember that when you point a finger at someone, the rest points at you. How can we improve this trend that we have?
Although many people consciously strive to stop doing so, it is sometimes difficult to stop judging people. Maybe we value things that we don't like about ourselves . Why do we really do it? What does this tell us about our personality and who we are?
The case is that perhaps it is for small things: clothing, the acquisition of an object, the way of speaking, or that person has not behaved correctly with us. Even in the best attempts, most of us are unable to stop judging people.

Exercise to stop judging people

We are going to do a little exercise of imagination. Let's think about the following story and analyze our behavior assuming what we would or would not do.
One day you go to work or to the university by subway, you sit down and you think about your things in peace. Suddenly, you notice the presence of a small child who is misbehaving. He screams, rampages, runs here and there, knocks someone else's book down, and even kicks an old lady.
You realize that the atmosphere in the subway car becomes tense and that everyone is fed up with the child. To make matters worse, his father stares out a window, without doing or saying anything, much less, without reprimanding his son's attitude. The father has a totally wicked attitude, which further increases the indignation of the people.
What would you do right now Take a minute to think about it. Suddenly, you decide to get up and talk to the father face to face. You say something like, " Hey, he doesn't realize what your son's up to. Are you not ashamed? «.
Suddenly, you see how the father comes out of his reverie and says to you: « Oh, excuse me. I am broken. We come from the hospital, my wife just died . Let's go home. I do not know what to do. I suppose the boy has reacted like this to the news. I'm so sorry .
Now you notice a real paradigm shift. Evaluate the situation at each point, from the edge of the participants in the scene. Ask yourself what you knew and didn't know before talking about each other. Perceptions at the beginning are not the same as at the end.

Judging others can be a mechanism that reveals questions of your own, rather than others

Why stop judging people?

The above story shows us that judging people is not only wrong, but can lead to terrible mistakes. When we judge someone, we may not understand the reasons for their behavior, we may lack information to express an opinion, or we may not take into account that person's lifestyle.
In any case, we can make a mistake that leaves us in evidence. These misunderstandings come from not having had sufficient analytical skills, not taking the time to understand what was happening in the situation, and letting ourselves be carried away by stereotypes and prejudices .
In addition, people who tend to judge people and comment on others, are exposed to being judged as well . As with rumors, the ideal is to refrain from doing it. There is no benefit derived from this practice, and on the contrary, the damages are constant.

Tips to stop judging others


Talking is a means of resolving differences, rather than judging others from behind

There are no magic formulas to stop judging people, however, we can evaluate changes to implement in our behavior. These are simple and effective measures that we should put into practice on a daily basis:
  • Try to locate and recognize your stereotypes . Expand your mind as stereotypes limit your life .
  • Before you speak or pass judgment, think hard for a few seconds . In this way we will avoid saying the first thing that comes to mind, which is normally an emotional response ; something that we don't think about and that we will regret if we say it.
  • Concentrate on your own life . Is it perfect? Who is anyone to judge others?
  • Think about how the person we judge may feel. How did it sit on you the last time someone judged you?
  • If you are angry or irritated by something about others, why not talk to that person instead of behind their back?
Good habits judging judging people

Why stop judging people?

Judging others does not define them; it defines us. Remember that when you point a finger at someone, the rest points at you. How can we improve this trend that we have?
Although many people consciously strive to stop doing so, it is sometimes difficult to stop judging people. Maybe we value things that we don't like about ourselves . Why do we really do it? What does this tell us about our personality and who we are?
The case is that perhaps it is for small things: clothing, the acquisition of an object, the way of speaking, or that person has not behaved correctly with us. Even in the best attempts, most of us are unable to stop judging people.

Exercise to stop judging people

We are going to do a little exercise of imagination. Let's think about the following story and analyze our behavior assuming what we would or would not do.
One day you go to work or to the university by subway, you sit down and you think about your things in peace. Suddenly, you notice the presence of a small child who is misbehaving. He screams, rampages, runs here and there, knocks someone else's book down, and even kicks an old lady.
You realize that the atmosphere in the subway car becomes tense and that everyone is fed up with the child. To make matters worse, his father stares out a window, without doing or saying anything, much less, without reprimanding his son's attitude. The father has a totally wicked attitude, which further increases the indignation of the people.
What would you do right now Take a minute to think about it. Suddenly, you decide to get up and talk to the father face to face. You say something like, " Hey, he doesn't realize what your son's up to. Are you not ashamed? «.
Suddenly, you see how the father comes out of his reverie and says to you: « Oh, excuse me. I am broken. We come from the hospital, my wife just died . Let's go home. I do not know what to do. I suppose the boy has reacted like this to the news. I'm so sorry .
Now you notice a real paradigm shift. Evaluate the situation at each point, from the edge of the participants in the scene. Ask yourself what you knew and didn't know before talking about each other. Perceptions at the beginning are not the same as at the end.

Judging others can be a mechanism that reveals questions of your own, rather than others

Why stop judging people?

The above story shows us that judging people is not only wrong, but can lead to terrible mistakes. When we judge someone, we may not understand the reasons for their behavior, we may lack information to express an opinion, or we may not take into account that person's lifestyle.
In any case, we can make a mistake that leaves us in evidence. These misunderstandings come from not having had sufficient analytical skills, not taking the time to understand what was happening in the situation, and letting ourselves be carried away by stereotypes and prejudices .
In addition, people who tend to judge people and comment on others, are exposed to being judged as well . As with rumors, the ideal is to refrain from doing it. There is no benefit derived from this practice, and on the contrary, the damages are constant.

Tips to stop judging others


Talking is a means of resolving differences, rather than judging others from behind

There are no magic formulas to stop judging people, however, we can evaluate changes to implement in our behavior. These are simple and effective measures that we should put into practice on a daily basis:
  • Try to locate and recognize your stereotypes . Expand your mind as stereotypes limit your life .
  • Before you speak or pass judgment, think hard for a few seconds . In this way we will avoid saying the first thing that comes to mind, which is normally an emotional response ; something that we don't think about and that we will regret if we say it.
  • Concentrate on your own life . Is it perfect? Who is anyone to judge others?
  • Think about how the person we judge may feel. How did it sit on you the last time someone judged you?
  • If you are angry or irritated by something about others, why not talk to that person instead of behind their back?

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